Everybody needs role models.

To inspire us…

To guide us…

To expand our perception of the world…

To remind us what’s possible for ourselves.

Particularly when our childhood has been tumultuous, or when our parents/carers aren’t people we look up to or aspire to be like - role models can offer us beams of light and inspiration.

Role models can be found all around us.

Yours may be the barista you buy your coffee from every morning, who greets you with a warm welcome and always makes an effort to enquire about your life…

Or your manager who, despite her/his own cumbersome workload and busy schedule, stays grounded, calm and kind…

Or the partner who continually shows up to do ‘the work’ and fosters a deeper and more loving connection with her/himself each day…

Or the friend who navigated a divorce with a whole lot of grace.

It’s important that we stop and consider who our role models are because:

• It helps us identify and connect with our values, and how we may be able to live in even more alignment and integrity with them

• It helps us identify opportunities for growth and expansion in our own lives, and who we want to grow into.

When we’re working with our trauma/s and trying to learn new ways of relating and responding, looking to role models who are showing up in their lives in a way we aspire to cannot only be helpful - it can inspire hope within us…

Because if they can meet situations in the way that you desire, then so can you…

And if they can call in some of the things you would love to see in your life, then so can you!

Your role models do not have ‘special’ qualities, and haven’t achieved ‘special’ things because they are different to you…

They are simply an example of everything that already exists within you - and that you too can harness and embrace. 

We are dynamic Beings who are always growing and evolving, and we have the power to nurture any and all of the qualities we desire for and within ourselves…

What this dynacism means is that our role models can and likely will change, as we too change and move through different seasons of our own lives. 

As well as this, it’s important to note too that while someone might be a role model for us in one area of our lives, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will be in another - and this is perfectly okay!

Consider for yourself:

• Who comes to mind when you think about your own role models, and who you look up to?

• What have they done that you admire/respect?

• What qualities do they have that you admire/respect?

• What can you learn from them and how might that support you to move through your own life/the world in a more aligned way?

I want to pause here and remind you that although you may be aspiring to grow into your greatest expression of yourself…

There is nothing to be fixed within you, right now.

While it’s a beautiful thing to aspire to bloom into your full potential…

This shouldn’t be at the disregard of the intrinsic worth that already exists with you.

You are more than enough, just as you are.

Given this, I’d love for you to also ponder:

How might I be a role model for someone else? What quality/ies do I have that others might look up to? 

Please trust me when I say that you DO have something of value to offer the humans in your life! While I know this may feel difficult or uncomfortable to see and acknowledge, I invite you to find AT LEAST one quality that others might admire in you.

Arjuna. X